{"id":505,"date":"2020-03-02T08:00:00","date_gmt":"2020-03-02T07:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/innerresearcher.com\/?p=505"},"modified":"2023-08-09T13:01:13","modified_gmt":"2023-08-09T12:01:13","slug":"stop-avoiding-problems","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/innerresearcher.com\/stop-avoiding-problems\/","title":{"rendered":"Stop Avoiding Problems: 3 Tips"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

As much as we would like to think that moving to another country will solve our problems, or traveling around the world will make us feel fulfilled \u2013 that\u2019s far from the truth! It’s time you stop avoiding problems & face them head on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sure thing, a new environment might be exciting and a fresh perspective can shift certain tings for us. However, soon enough, we will be faced with our habitual behaviors, thoughts, and beliefs. No such thing as running away from our problems!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cWherever you go, you take yourself with you.\u201d<\/p>\nNeil Gaiman<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

IT\u2019S NOT OUR ENVIRONMENT \u2014 IT\u2019S US<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If we feel like crap about ourselves in our home town, soon enough we will feel like crap on a stunning beach on the other side of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t outrun, escape, or hide from yourself. Trust me, I of all people, would know!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I moved to New York City in 2015 and lived there for 4 years. Before moving there, I used to fantasize about how incredible my life is going to be there. I will be at the center of the Universe! I will be so happy and fulfilled! My life is going to be magical because I will finally be where I belong!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

New York was definitely incredible, but after the first few months when the hype wore off, I realized that I still felt as frustrated and annoyed as I felt when I was living in Europe. My mind, of course, had to justify this feeling and thus came up with this genius<\/em><\/strong> interpretation:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m frustrated and annoyed because I live with roommates in an apartment that I don\u2019t fully love, so when I finally get my own place and live by myself \u2014 then, THEEEN, I will finally be fulfilled and happy.\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fast forward 3.5 years later \u2014 I had a stunning 1BR apartment and lived by myself, and yet\u2026 I still felt frustrated and annoyed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not only did I realize that we can\u2019t escape ourselves and run away from our so-called \u201cproblems\u201d, frustrations, and emotions that are not being dealt with \u2014 but we also can\u2019t escape the lessons that life wants us to learn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

IT\u2019S TIME TO DEAL WITH IT<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

If we don\u2019t address, deal with, and work through the things that obviously need to be dealt with and worked through \u2014 it will pop up over and over and over again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s how repetitive relationship patterns happen, it\u2019s how we keep getting the same outcomes no matter where we are and what we do, and this is exactly how we drive ourselves crazy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unfortunately, there\u2019s no such thing as running away from our problems or ourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Life is such a great teacher that when you don’t learn a lesson, it will repeat it.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Even if your outer world and your environment change, you take your inner world with you wherever you go. Your beliefs, thoughts, perceptions, emotions, past, expectations, and habits. These are the things that go with us eeeverywhere!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My question for you is:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What repetitive patterns are you seeing in yourself?<\/strong>
What same things or challenges keep popping up no matter where you are? No matter who you\u2019re with?<\/strong>
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Brutal Honesty<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I want you to be brutally honest with yourself because that\u2019s the only way things will be able to shift. Our friends often might be too nice and our family might not want to hurt us, thus they won\u2019t tell us the brutally honest things we might need to know so we can grow and begin to change things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you do have friends & family who are supportive and want to help you grow and evolve \u2014 ask them what they see in you that perhaps you don\u2019t see in yourself. Any self-destructive habits? Unnecessary and harmful patterns, reactions, behaviors?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(p.s. make sure these are family members and friends that truly love and care for you and want to help you see things for the sake of your personal growth. Having a family member\/friend say mean and painful things to you simply because that\u2019s what they \u2018think\u2019 isn\u2019t the same thing as asking them for constructive feedback related to your patterns\/behaviors!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m blessed to have family and friends that are incredibly honest with me. (I\u2019m saying blessed, but sometimes I want to use the word \u2018cursed\u2019.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one likes being told that they are being snappy or unnecessarily harsh and reactive. However, how else will we grow? How else are we going to change things around?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Closing Thoughts<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I might get frustrated when I\u2019m told certain things about myself, but that\u2019s the whole point! I don\u2019t want to be snappy and I don\u2019t want to be reactive in a way that isn\u2019t most productive. Thus, my only way out is through! By bringing awareness to these patterns, working on them, and releasing them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If we want to be happier, feel more at peace, and change up our life \u2014 going to Bali won\u2019t help! We need to look within and begin working on our inner world. Only then will we be able to see some real changes and create different outcomes!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Enjoyed reading this article? Consider checking out my online class “Journaling for Self-Reflection.”<\/a><\/strong> You might also enjoy this article about surrender<\/a><\/strong>. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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As much as we would like to think that moving to another country will solve our problems, or traveling around the world will make us feel fulfilled \u2013 that\u2019s far from the truth! It’s time you stop avoiding problems & face them head on. Sure thing, a new environment might be exciting and a fresh perspective can shift certain tings for us. However, soon enough, we will be faced with our habitual behaviors, thoughts, and beliefs. No such thing as running away from our problems! \u201cWherever you go, you take yourself with you.\u201d Neil Gaiman IT\u2019S NOT OUR ENVIRONMENT \u2014…<\/p>\n","category_list":"personal development<\/a>","author_info":{"name":"Gabie","url":"https:\/\/innerresearcher.com\/author\/gabie\/"},"comments_num":"0 comments","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/innerresearcher.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/505"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/innerresearcher.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/innerresearcher.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/innerresearcher.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/innerresearcher.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=505"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/innerresearcher.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/505\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1074,"href":"https:\/\/innerresearcher.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/505\/revisions\/1074"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/innerresearcher.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1073"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/innerresearcher.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=505"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/innerresearcher.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=505"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/innerresearcher.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=505"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}